Posts that struck a nerve in 2012

Why do so many blogs recount their biggest posts at the end of the year? I thought about not doing it this year, because in one sense it just seems tedious and terribly unoriginal. However, I DO find it interesting to survey the past year’s posts and think through the reasons for whatever trends I observe on this blog. In 2011, I clearly noted that posts that did not gain attention from any big blogs nevertheless received a lot of attention by individuals on Facebook. Posts on parenting, singleness, and pain at the holidays seemed to strike a nerve and gained a lot of attention by word of mouth. That was interesting to me.

This year, corrective posts caught attention over encouraging posts. I’m contemplating why that might be. Is it good? Bad? I don’t know, but it’s clear that there is a big concern among the women (and men) who read this blog that centers on blind spots in how conservative complementarians understand women’s issues. When we inaccurately label the problem, our proposed solutions inevitably miss the mark.

Today, I’m thinking about how easy the gospel makes it for us to correct our mistakes and repair with those we’ve hurt. Yet, I haven’t seen too much of that in evangelicalism this year. I see a lot of castigating of those who draw attention to sin issues. “How dare you point out abuse in our church!” Instead, Christ has made the way for us to say, “Wow. I’m sorry. I did not handle that right. Will you forgive me?” I still believe that is the great gift the gospel brings us for living in unity in the Body of Christ. We teach the value of repentance to outsiders best when we strongly embrace it for ourselves.

Post number 10 was the one that is my personal number 1 post for the year. This post echoed my heart after the negative book review that is the technical number 1 post for the year. Warts and all, I still very much love the Church, but I do not love it as much as Jesus does. He loves it strongly, and none of us should give up on the Church despite the pain believers often cause other believers. Derek Webb said it best–we can not live for Him with no regard for Her. If we love Him we will love His Church. Folks, please do not give up on the Church, local or global. Suffer with her and for her, enduring the bad with the good. She is God’s heart.

Here are the 10 posts that had the most views over the last year. 

10. The Dysfunctional but Cherished Church

9. 50 Shades of the Curse

8. A Mother’s Day for all Women

7. The Value of Quiet Husbands

6. Don’t waste your divorce

5. A Christian Perspective on the Explosive Child

4. A Somewhat Scholarly Analysis of Gen. 3:16

3. 50 Shades of Complementarians

2. Things that Undermine the Complementarian Position

1. Our Review of Real Marriage

7 Responses to Posts that struck a nerve in 2012

  1. Lore Ferguson December 28, 2012 at 3:25 pm #

    I felt the same way, Wendy, superfluous and unoriginal. However, like you, I also was curious about what the trends said my readers wanted. It was helpful for me to go back and realize that some of the most nerving posts I wrote this year, posts I was hesitant about writing and/or posting, and entries that I knew could stir up controversy, were the posts that resonated most with my readers. It was some good encouragement for me to keep on keeping on.

    As I look back through your top ten I see all posts that resonated deeply with me as well, so keep on keeping on!

  2. Wendy December 28, 2012 at 4:01 pm #

    Thank you, Lore. I needed that encouragement. 🙂

  3. Bea December 29, 2012 at 1:35 am #

    Yes, there were several in this list that I had shared on Facebook; messages which I still think about and which have been a part of my growth this year.

  4. Michelle Disterhoft December 30, 2012 at 6:35 am #

    We don't know each other but I want you to know how much it means to me to be able read your blog. You have a gift for writing and your transparency through it is very moving. I often don't know how to put into words the topics you choose to write about but somehow you seem to do it with such grace and wisdom. I thank God for His good work in you! May you and your family be blessed. 🙂 Kindly, Michelle

  5. Wendy December 30, 2012 at 1:52 pm #

    Thanks, Michelle. Your encouragement means a lot and keeps me doing this. 🙂

  6. Anonymous December 31, 2012 at 2:31 am #

    Hi Wendy. I've been reading your blog for the past year and want to thank you for everything you write. I've often wanted a mentor & consider you to be one. Your writing challenges yet encourages me. I appreciate the authenticity, thoughtfulness & time that goes into every post. Your writings make me think through what I believe & why. I've shared many posts on Facebook & look forward to growing in Christ in 2013. God bless you & your family.

  7. Wendy December 31, 2012 at 2:42 am #

    Wow, Jami. What a kind thing to say. Thank you for the encouragement!